Job 2:13 (NLT)
If you're always in a hurry, then you're never going to be a great listener. To have great conversations, you start by investing as much time as needed. Why? Because you can't listen very well when you’re in a hurry. Great listening takes time.
Job was a wealthy man who lost virtually everything, including his money, health, and even his children. “When three of Job’s friends heard of the tragedy he had suffered, they got together and traveled from their homes to comfort and console him. . . . Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words” (Job 2:11, 13 NLT).
This is called the ministry of presence. When you’re ministering to someone in pain, you must remember this: The deeper the pain, the fewer words you use. If somebody's having a bad hair day, then you can talk about it for 30 minutes. But if that person has a major crisis, talking about it for a long time is probably not going to help.
A lot of people don’t know how to help someone who is in crisis. They don't know what to say. Those same people will often stay away from a friend because they’re afraid of saying the wrong thing.
The truth is that you don’t need to say anything. Just show up and shut up. You can’t talk people out of their pain. Some pain is beyond words. When it's the right time, your hurting friend will say something. When it's the right time, then you'll be able to say something too.
This kind of investment takes time. Notice how many days Job's friends sat on the ground with him: seven. Do you have anybody in your life who'd sit on the ground with you for seven days without saying anything? That takes a very mature person and a true friend.
If you want to be that kind of friend, then you have to be willing to sacrifice so that you can give people your love, attention, and presence—as much as they need.
If you're always in a hurry, then you're never going to be a great listener. To have great conversations, you start by investing as much time as needed. Why? Because you can't listen very well when you’re in a hurry. Great listening takes time.
Job was a wealthy man who lost virtually everything, including his money, health, and even his children. “When three of Job’s friends heard of the tragedy he had suffered, they got together and traveled from their homes to comfort and console him. . . . Then they sat on the ground with him for seven days and nights. No one said a word to Job, for they saw that his suffering was too great for words” (Job 2:11, 13 NLT).
This is called the ministry of presence. When you’re ministering to someone in pain, you must remember this: The deeper the pain, the fewer words you use. If somebody's having a bad hair day, then you can talk about it for 30 minutes. But if that person has a major crisis, talking about it for a long time is probably not going to help.
A lot of people don’t know how to help someone who is in crisis. They don't know what to say. Those same people will often stay away from a friend because they’re afraid of saying the wrong thing.
The truth is that you don’t need to say anything. Just show up and shut up. You can’t talk people out of their pain. Some pain is beyond words. When it's the right time, your hurting friend will say something. When it's the right time, then you'll be able to say something too.
This kind of investment takes time. Notice how many days Job's friends sat on the ground with him: seven. Do you have anybody in your life who'd sit on the ground with you for seven days without saying anything? That takes a very mature person and a true friend.
If you want to be that kind of friend, then you have to be willing to sacrifice so that you can give people your love, attention, and presence—as much as they need.
Talk It Over
What can you do right now that would give you more margin to be available to your friends when they are in crisis?
Is it difficult for you to listen and not talk in a conversation? If so, why?
Why is it an investment to give someone the ministry of presence?
-by Pastor Rick
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Prayer:
Father,
Grant us the wisdom to set aside distractions and use our time for what matters most. Help us be present, patient, and willing to serve others with love. In Jesus' Name we pray. Amen
