Keep reminding yourself that
you live in a world that is groaning, waiting for redemption, but remind
yourself also that the cross guarantees that the groaning will someday end.
Permit yourself
to groan; you have valid reasons to do so. Give yourself to seasons of
groaning; it is spiritually healthy to do so. And as you groan, remember that
your Lord hears your groaning and responds with tender loving care. However, it
is important to note that most of our groaning is not only spiritually
unhealthy; it is spiritually debilitating. We most often groan because we have not
gotten our own way or because something or someone has gotten in our way. Often
our groaning is little more than verbal pouting. It is a symptom of our
continuing desire to be sovereign so as to guarantee that we will get the
pleasures, treasures, and comforts that we have set our hearts on. Sadly, so
much of our groaning is self-oriented frustration that ends up making us despondent,
discouraged, and a bit bitter.
But we have reason to groan because we live in a world that
is
breaking under the harsh burden of the destructiveness of sin. Every day we are
greeted by corporate sin, cultural sin, institutional sin, and
individual sin. Sin never has a good harvest. Sin always deceives,
divides, and destroys. It always promises what it can’t deliver
and delivers things that were not part of the bargain. Sin masquerades
as something it is not and can never be. It is the ultimate wolf in
sheep’s clothing. It has left both humanity and the surrounding creation broken and
crippled.
Think about when we typically groan. We groan when we’re
disappointed.
We groan when we’re grieving. We groan when we’re in pain. We
groan when we’re frustrated. We groan when we feel weak. We groan
when we’re exhausted. We groan when things are not the way they are supposed to be. It’s
right to groan for the right reason. It’s right to be sad at what sin has done to you and
everything around you. It’s good to be frustrated when you’ve allowed
yourself
once again to be hoodwinked by sin. It’s good to groan at how sin makes
marriage difficult and parenting a travail. It’s good to mourn the
effect of sin on the church and the workplace, on education and
government. It’s good to groan when the spiritual battle has left
you tired and wounded. It’s right to groan when you see loved ones
trapped in sin’s deceit.
Here’s what is important to understand: your groaning is
either anger that you’ve not gotten your way or a cry that God would get his holy,
loving, wise, and righteous way. Groaning is either, “Will my kingdom
ever come?” or it is, “Your kingdom come.” It is good to stop and examine your
groaning and to give yourself to a season of the right kind of groaning.
After all, you do live in a groaning place. Paul says it this way in Romans 8:22: “For
we know
that the whole creation has been groaning together in pains of childbirth
until now.”
But it’s tempting to avoid groaning, to keep yourself too
busy or
too distracted to be able to think about your struggle with sin and the
brokenness of the world around you. It’s tempting to try to convince
yourself that you are okay and the things around you are not that bad. It’s tempting to
numb your heart with the physical pleasures of this fallen world. It’s
tempting to put on a happy face when you’re not really happy or happy with how
you’re
doing. It’s tempting to give non-answers or evasive answers when someone
asks you how you’re doing. It’s tempting to try to convince
yourself to feel good about things that are not good. It’s tempting to work
at not groaning.
So, it takes grace to groan over sin internal and external.
It’s counterintuitive
to do so. At the point of sinning, sin doesn’t look horrible; it
looks attractive. When you’re lusting, you don’t see danger; you see
beauty. When you’re gossiping, you don’t think about its destructiveness, because you’re
carried away by the buzz of carrying a tale. When you are overeating, you
don’t see the sin in what you’re doing, because you are enjoying the pleasure
of the sights and tastes of the food. When you’re cheating on your taxes,
you don’t
think about the danger of a heart that has become comfortable with thievery,
because you’re caught up into thinking about how you will spend the money gained. Part of the
deceitfulness of sin is its ability to make what is destructive appear
attractive.
When you are groaning sin’s destruction, you are groaning
because you’ve been blessed with eyes that see clearly, a mind that thinks wisely,
and a heart that has been made tender by grace. The problem is not that we groan, but that
we groan selfishly or we do not groan at all. Grace will make you groan and then
will turn
your groaning into rejoicing. In your groaning, you rejoice because you know
that God meets you in your groaning.
The apostle Paul says that God hears and answers even when we are
without
words with which to groan (Romans 8:, And the Holy Spirit helps
us in our weakness. For example, we don’t know what God wants us to pray for.
But the Holy Spirit prays for us with groanings that cannot be expressed in words. And the Father who knows all hearts knows
what the Spirit is saying, for the Spirit pleads for us believers in harmony with God’s own will.) You see, we are not just
groaning into the air as some cathartic exercise. No, we groan to
someone who has invited us to groan and has promised to hear and to answer. We groan
to one who is in us, with us, and for us, who has blessed us with life-altering
promises and who will not quit working on our behalf until we have no more reason to
groan. We groan to one who has already won the victory over everything for which we groan
and who will not rest until all his children are experiencing all the fruits of
that victory. In this way our groaning is not selfish anger, but a cry for
help to
the only one who has the power, authority, wisdom, and grace to come to our
aid and give us what we really need. And in our groaning, we confess that too often we
groan for the wrong reason.
So, stop and groan. Let your heart feel the burden of the
full weight
of sin, both internal and external. Scan your life, scan your heart, scan
your thoughts and desires, scan your words and behavior, scan the struggles of the
people around you, scan the world you live in, and find reason to groan. Let
sin’s sadness drive you once again to the cross where your Savior groaned aloud on
your behalf as he bore the horrible weight of sin. Take time to let sadness sink in
so it may lead you to redemption’s celebration, as you remember that the
debt has been
paid and the ultimate victory over what makes you groan has been
guaranteed.
Yes, indeed, it is good to groan.
Reflection Questions
1. Thinking of both the subject of your groaning and its
effects, how can you tell whether your groaning is spiritually healthy or spiritually
unhealthy?
2. In what ways do you find it challenging to engage with
spiritual lament?
3. How could you more effectively groan over your sin, and
what spiritual
benefits might that offer?
Read Psalm 74, and then use it as a catalyst for writing your
own song of lament. Include both private and corporate confession and
need.
Psalm 74 NLT A psalm of Asaph.
1 O God, why have you rejected us so long?
Why is
your anger so intense against the sheep of your own pasture? 2 Remember that we
are the people you chose long ago, the tribe you redeemed as your own special
possession! And remember Jerusalem, your home here on earth. 3 Walk through the
awful ruins of the city; see how the enemy has destroyed your sanctuary.
4 There your
enemies shouted their victorious battle cries; there they set up their
battle standards. 5 They swung their axes like woodcutters
in a forest. 6 With axes and picks, they smashed the
carved paneling. 7 They burned your sanctuary to the ground.
They
defiled the place that bears your name. 8 Then they
thought, “Let’s destroy everything!” So they burned down all the places where
God was worshiped. 9 We no longer see your miraculous signs.
All the
prophets are gone, and no one can tell us when it will end. 10 How long, O God,
will you allow our enemies to insult you? Will you let them dishonor your name
forever? 11 Why do you hold back your strong right
hand? Unleash your powerful fist and destroy them. 12 You, O God, are
my king from ages past, bringing salvation to the earth. 13 You split the
sea by your strength and smashed the heads of the sea monsters. 14 You crushed the
heads of Leviathan and let the desert animals eat him. 15 You caused the
springs and streams to gush forth, and you dried up rivers that never run dry.
16 Both day and
night belong to you; you made the starlight and the sun. 17 You set the
boundaries of the earth, and you made both summer and winter.18 See
how these enemies insult you, Lord. A foolish nation has dishonored your name. 19 Don’t
let these wild beasts destroy your turtledoves. Don’t forget your suffering people
forever. 20 Remember your
covenant promises, for the land is full of darkness and violence! 21 Don’t let the
downtrodden be humiliated again. Instead, let the poor and needy praise your name.
22 Arise, O God,
and defend your cause. Remember how these fools insult you all day long.
23 Don’t overlook
what your enemies have said or their growing uproar.